Dec10, 2009 Hi Guys, I have been working on the Emansipashun video blog emansipashun.jasperswardrobe.com for a few months. I retreated and made another form of introspective video and photography, celebrating gender variance and body diversity as part of body positivity. I like it a a positive statement as opposed to the critique and polemic on this site.
But, lately I have been craving a more serious blog audience. I want to see whether it is possible engage in constructive dialog with the Seranoan TransFeminists at QuestioningTransphobia, The WomenBornTransexual, or the Feminist Separatists at FabMatters.
Hi Sweeties. It is that time of the year again. Yes, I have moved my blog again. My new project is called Emansipashun. It is beautiful and easy to navigate. Please come over and have a look: bit.ly/4sRw00
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She shows the lie that Male Femininity must Pass to be beautiful. She is making herself vulnerable. This is the authenticity that somatic females accept. This is how you become woman, when you invite other women in to enculturate you in the the patterns of interaction and speech of the Woman Identity Category.
In this video I delve into a subject that I have touched upon many times. Presenting as a ’sexy woman’ gender generates resistance, anger, fear and lust among straight men. It puts me into a homologous position as a female. I get to know the ‘Man’ identity category as an outsider.
It started when I realized that many straight men felt free to voice lust towards me when no one else was watching.
However, I never really felt right on the inside of the ‘Man’ identity category. Most progressive straight women extend recognition to me as a member of the identity category ‘Woman’ as long as my clothing marks me clearly as disidentifying with ‘Man’. I had to unlearn a lot of ‘Man’ category discursive behaviors. I had to learn to take up no space. it is a sort of withdrawal of ‘Will’. I had to learn to listen and play a supportive role in ‘Woman’ category groups. That was surprisingly easy to learn as soon as the ‘Woman’ category was projected upon me along with an expectation of those behaviors. At the same time I made space for the ‘Woman’ listening and supporting skills by disidentifying with ‘Man’ and internalizing a virtues of what a ‘good Woman’ is like.
My ‘Woman’ is much more mature and grown up than my ‘Man’. My ‘Woman’ is patient, caring and in touch with her emotions. She lets the boys win their games and gains strength through flexibility like a Willow in the Wind.
Other girls open up their hearts to her in a way that is not possible between category ‘Man’ and category ‘Woman’.
see also Men Take Up Too Much Space
These lyrics by Madonna express beautifully the dilemmas of girlness. I felt these paradoxes keenly when I was living in a ‘Woman’ social gender. In a sense being socially and emotionally receptive is much more socially complex. Than the ‘Man’ role of performing dominance. Her lyric about showing skin in patches takes me right back to the experience of learning to dress and learning the technologies of sexy clothing and makeup. Learning to be the object of sexual desire and attention and to exist in that vulnerability.
Girls can wear jeans
And cut their hair short
Wear shirts and boots
cause its ok to be a boy
But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading
cause you think that being a girl is degrading
But secretly youd love to know what its like
Wouldnt you
What it feels like for a girl
Silky smooth
Lips as sweet as candy, baby
Tight blue jeans
Skin that shows in patches
Strong inside but you dont know it
Good little girls they never show it
When you open up your mouth to speak
Could you be a little weak
Chorus:
Do you know what it feels like for a girl
Do you know what it feels like in this world
For a girl
Hair that twirls on finger tips so gently, baby
Hands that rest on jutting hips repenting
Hurt thats not supposed to show
And tears that fall when no one knows
When youre trying hard to be your best
Could you be a little less
(chorus)
(chorus, prefixing 3rd line with what it feels like)
Strong inside but you dont know it
Good little girls they never show it
When you open up your mouth to speak
Could you be a little weak
(chorus, repeat)
In this world
Do you know
Do you know
Do you know what it feels like for a girl
What it feels like in this world
these pictures at Lovefest 2009 in San Francisco. I document a new generation of Women, Women who will define the future. The music is a remix of Madonna’s What It Feels Like For A Girl
Category: Music
Tags:
emancipation, girls, feminism, crossdressing, liberation, lovefest, women, future, Madonna, sanfrancisco, civiccenter, beautiful, photography, lyrics
