beautiful boy – white T w/ skinny jeans
Feb 1 2010
I took this shot in the Castro in San Francisco. He shows how very subtle effects of eyebrow shaping and (i think) eyeliner can make a huge impact
@polly Well female at birth would just be female people and/or implies you can become female later.
I am taking an agnostic position about whether anyone is female or can become female. For me that is the beauty of FAB as Female At Birth. It points backward at origins but makes assumptions about current sex/gender/body. In queer SF FTM’s are a much more visible presence than MTF’s. I feel comfortable referring to them as Female At Birth but I would never hang the label female on them.
I have decided that the terms Male and Female are no longer useful for communication. There are three main definitions of the Male/Female duality
1) Traditional | Female = Female At Birth (this is an immutable essence)
2) Transsexual | Female = Female At Birth – Female to Male Transsexuals + Male To Female Transsexuals (Also an immutable essence)
3) Social Construction | Female has no ontological reality. A baby is female if it is assigned female. An MTF is Female when femaleness is projected upon them.
Most of the gender argument on the internet is between proponents of definition 1 and 2. They just talk past each other and make each other angry because they do not have a shared language. I come in with definition 3 and I cannot talk to 1 or 2.
My term Female At Birth can be used to communication to the rational elements of all three groups because it is agnostic. It has the added benefit of being unacceptable to to the extremists in group 2 and making their extremism visible. It may play a similar role with group 1 people who insist that Female is a timeless, ahistorical essence.
Personally I refuse the word Man. Being referred to as a Dude drains the blood from under my nails. Male bothers me but I do not say anything about it. Mostly because of the baggage of the term. It implies much more than the neutral MAB. The term Male is also represented by a Masculine Mab. It implicitly erases Mab Femmes like me. The term Male totalizes and universalizes MABs in the mold of the Patriarchal Male. This has always been in the interest of Patriarchy.
When the opponents of Patriarchy uses universalizing and essentializing language about Males and Male Privilege they are unknowingly in collusion with a patriarchal system. They help to universalize Masculine Male as the only face of Mabness.
I think you will find that if you use Mab instead of Male. You will find that a lot of the privilege that you ascribe to Male is only actualized by Masculine Mabs. The relative prestige difference between Masculine Mabs and Feminine Mabs is huge. The term Male and Male privilege erases that difference in the interest of a totalizing class politics.